I went through many of the same things you did regarding self-improvement - for about 10 years. It slowly dawned on me that many leaders in self-improvement were lying about their results.

Just look at the true crime shows that have exposed many of them, My life changed for the better when I began focusing on EQ and meditating. I let go of my judgments and let the world be what it is ... the most empowering thing I ever did